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Jeb Kinnison’s previous book on finding a good partner by understanding attachment types Bad Boyfriends Using Attachment Theory to Avoid Mr or Ms Wrong and Make You a Better Partner brought lots of readers to JebKinnisoncom where the most asked about topic was dealing with avoidant lovers and spouses There are many readers in troubled marriages now who are looking for help as well as people already invested in a relationship short of marriage who’d like help deciding if they should stick with it The reason why there is so much interest is the large number of people in relationships with Avoidants who struggle with their lack of responsiveness and inability to tolerate real intimacy Relationships between an Avoidant and a partner of another attachment type are the largest group of unhappy relationships and people who love their partners and who may have started families and had children with an Avoidant will work very hard to try to make their relationships work better out of love for their partner and children as well as their own happiness And it’s also true that the Avoidants in these relationships are than likely unhappy with the situation as well retreating into their shells and feeling harassed for being as. Us anxious types need all the help we can get and this is the definitive handbook to figuring out insecurities and doing away with them Not many books have changed my life but this one did for the better 1010 I would also credit this book for helping stabilise and understand my relationship better If you re just thinking of giving this a read I d say go for it

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Ked to respond with positive feeling when they have little to give The other reason why so many people are looking for help on this topic is that it is an almost impossible problem Couples counsellors rarely have the time or knowledge to work with an Avoidant and will often advise the spouse to give up on a Dismissive especially whose lack of responsiveness looks like cruelty or contempt and sometimes it is Yet there is some hope though it may take years and reuire educating the Avoidant on the patterns of good couples communication if both partners want to change their patterns toward secure and satisfying models it can be done How can you tell if your partner is avoidant Does your partner • Seem not to care how you feel • Freuently fail to respond to direct uestions or text messages • Accuse you of being too needy or codependent • Talk of some past lover as ideal and compare you to them • Act coldly toward your children and the needy • Remind you that he or she would be fine without you • Withhold sex or affection as punishment If that sounds familiar then your partner is likely avoidant At about 25% of the population Avoidants have shorter troubled relationships and tend to divorce freuently and divor. Dismissive avoidant approvesI am Dismissive Avoidant with a Fearful Avoidant partner Apparently a rare pairing and I could understand why Our communication has been terrible I found this book an illuminating objective overview of the issues we face and how they might be resolved Thank you for writing this bookNot 5 stars because there were typos and some shoddy presentation of arguments

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Ce again if remarried What can be done Individual therapy for the motivated Avoidant can move their default attachment style toward security and to the extent that problems have been made worse by an overly clingy and demanding anxious preoccupied partner therapy can help there as well Insecure partners who read and absorb the lessons of these books will have a head start on noticing and restraining themselves when they are slipping into an unsatisfying communications pattern and an intellectual understanding of the bad patterns is a step toward unlearning them Not all difficult Avoidants can be reformed; that depends on both partners the depth of their problems and their motivation and ability to change over time But many troubled marriages and relationships can be greatly improved and the people in them can learn to be happier with even modest improvements in understanding how they can best communicate support for each other For those reading who have not read Bad Boyfriends or are less familiar with attachment types a beefed up section on attachment theory and attachment types from Bad Boyfriends is included Regular readers of JebKinnisoncom will find edited versions of some relevant material previously posted ther. Useful info but as someone who s been pegged as an avoidant by a former partner who encouraged me to read this as the book itself instructs you the anxious person to do this came off as very condescending and well dismissive of avoidant peopleMaybe this book worksmakes sense for people in relationships with avoidant people but if you re going to encourage avoidant partners to read something maybe make it something that isn t outright insulting to them several times throughout the book I think you could provide the same info without that Same issue I have with The God Delusion aimed a Christians trying to get them to see the error of their ways but super condescending to actual Christians while being a good source of info and a pretty good read for atheists except for the parts where he tries to prove stuff in ways that are not logically sound er what book am I reviewing again ahem


10 thoughts on “Avoidant

  1. says:

    This book focuses on relationships with a dismissive partner mostly romantic relationships but it also looks at pe

  2. says:

    Us anxious types need all the help we can get and this is the definitive handbook to figuring out insecurities and doing away with them Not many books have changed my life but this one did for the better 1010 I would also credit this book for helping stabilise and understand my relationship better If you're just thinking

  3. says:

    Okay so there is some really useful information about attachment type theory here Ironically the best part of this book is that the author doesn't follow academic writing conventions and just blockuotes huge sec

  4. says:

    There was a shocking amount dismissing of Dismissives So you have a dismissive partner they should read this book and you are a Dismissive pa

  5. says:

    I was engrossed in this book I couldn't put it down and finished it in 3 days There is a lot of new and interesting information My biggest disappointment with the book was how many LONG paragraphs are copied in from other authors many many pages worth I've already read John Gottman's books and referencing his work in passing is fine but such

  6. says:

    Dismissive avoidant approvesI am Dismissive Avoidant with a Fearful Avoidant partner Apparently a rare pairing and I could u

  7. says:

    Useful info but as someone who's been pegged as an avoidant by a former partner who encouraged me to read this as the book itself instructs you the anxious person to do this came off as very condescending and well dismissive of avoidant peopleMaybe this book worksmakes sense for people in relationships with avoidant people but if you're going to encourage avoidant partners to read something maybe make it somet

  8. says:

    Should have read earlierVery informative I feel like if I'd read this book 9 years ago it would have saved a lot

  9. says:

    I liked this book and how he emphasized the important things from other well known books It helped me further understand my avoidant husband a

  10. says:

    Overall this book is very eye opening The title seems a little damming but it is actually a book that explores all facets of attachment There are several outdated and misogynistic thinking portions in the book and

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